Only an Auntie can give hugs like a mother, keep secrets like a sister and
love like a friend!If you're an Aunt who loves her nieces &
nephews, post this as your status!! Hugs and Kisses to all of my
Nieces and Nephews...whether by blood or by luv!!!♥
Sunday, July 25, 2010
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Let the Journey Begin
I wear many hats in my life. I am a wife, daughter, sister, friend, and co-worker. However, I think my favorite hat is that of Auntie. George and I have 4 nieces, 1 nephew, and 1 godson. I consider myself a modern woman and I like to think of myself as the cool Aunt. I know it will get me in huge trouble but I will be the one to take them all to get their first tattoos. I am 30 years old and I got married about a year ago and unlike some I have no inner voice or biological clock telling me that I need to have children yet. I believe that you should enjoy your marriage as much as you can before having children. The stronger the marriage before the kids the better chance of survival. I believe it is a total myth created by parents from long ago that marriage only gets better with children. Now I have no experience of children with marriage to draw from so I could be wrong. But FOR ME I believe that children add to the life. Marriage is not perfect and takes work. Children will change our relationship and we will grow and adapt along with taking the good and taking the bad. It will not be perfect, it will be life.
Now the other consideration is money. I have heard from tons of people that financially it is NEVER a perfect time to have a baby. However, just because there is not a perfect time does not mean, I think, that we can't be as perfect as we can be. George and I are very conscious of what our short and long term goals are financially. And when it comes to kids we want to be able to provide for them.
This brings me to our concern about journey to even want children. When we met we talked a whole lot about how BOTH of us were unsure if we even wanted kids. We have the same concerns that I am sure a bunch of people have. Will we be good parents? Can we provide for them? What if we screw them up? Then what? Plus, being 100% honest, we are both selfish people. Not in a traditional way but we are selfish with our time. Before I met George I used to make my work my life. Since I met him I have fought very hard to balance my work and home lives. I will sacrifice time with George to do the best damn job I can but I do have a limit. My marriage will not be sacrificed on the alter of work. After all it will not say on my tombstone that I worked really hard. And the last thing I want is to look at my child and feel like they took something from me. I have known people who feel that way and it is one of the saddest things I think I have ever seen.
So for right now George and I are enjoying our lives. We have a big family, great friends, and beautiful dogs that currently are filling the roles of kids for us. We are taking everything day by day and looking forward to the future.
So this blog is my journey from Aunt to Mother. For years I felt like I did not want midgets. I love being able to have all the fun times with the kids in my life and then send them back to the parents when things get rough. So this blog is partly for me to voice my own thoughts on my change in perspective. It is a big shift for me. This is to share my feelings with the people that matter most. Unlike some out there I do not have a ton of people breathing down my neck to procreate. I have a good support system of people that allow me to talk out my own fears and hopes for the future.
So here we go! Welcome to Aunt Lala Land!
Now the other consideration is money. I have heard from tons of people that financially it is NEVER a perfect time to have a baby. However, just because there is not a perfect time does not mean, I think, that we can't be as perfect as we can be. George and I are very conscious of what our short and long term goals are financially. And when it comes to kids we want to be able to provide for them.
This brings me to our concern about journey to even want children. When we met we talked a whole lot about how BOTH of us were unsure if we even wanted kids. We have the same concerns that I am sure a bunch of people have. Will we be good parents? Can we provide for them? What if we screw them up? Then what? Plus, being 100% honest, we are both selfish people. Not in a traditional way but we are selfish with our time. Before I met George I used to make my work my life. Since I met him I have fought very hard to balance my work and home lives. I will sacrifice time with George to do the best damn job I can but I do have a limit. My marriage will not be sacrificed on the alter of work. After all it will not say on my tombstone that I worked really hard. And the last thing I want is to look at my child and feel like they took something from me. I have known people who feel that way and it is one of the saddest things I think I have ever seen.
So for right now George and I are enjoying our lives. We have a big family, great friends, and beautiful dogs that currently are filling the roles of kids for us. We are taking everything day by day and looking forward to the future.
So this blog is my journey from Aunt to Mother. For years I felt like I did not want midgets. I love being able to have all the fun times with the kids in my life and then send them back to the parents when things get rough. So this blog is partly for me to voice my own thoughts on my change in perspective. It is a big shift for me. This is to share my feelings with the people that matter most. Unlike some out there I do not have a ton of people breathing down my neck to procreate. I have a good support system of people that allow me to talk out my own fears and hopes for the future.
So here we go! Welcome to Aunt Lala Land!
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